Hello!
I wanted to write last week, but I was not in a good place and thought I should avoid any and all negativity.
To those of my friends who got my insane e-mail...thanks for the love. :)
Last week was one of those weeks where you are certain that some higher power is testing your limits. I was feeling pretty sorry for myself and I really hate pity parties.
Today is a much better day. I am back in my comfort zone (i.e. my routine), I had a very productive weekend and I just feel good.
Last week I recruited my future in-laws into helping with some of the wedding details that I am DIY-ing. We got SO much done that I may actually have the summer to myself!!! Yippee!
Asking for help can be such an amazing thing.
For a while I was stubbornly stuck that I would do it all myself...Tom finally convinced me that I needed help for both of our sanity. (I am sure his motives were not just about productivity but also because he was sick of listening to me bitch) But let me tell you...he is a champ. My future husband, mother in-law, father in-law and even brother in-law all sat around the kitchen table the last 2 weekends pumping out tasks like they cared about it just as much as I do. They listened to me give orders and didn't complain when I re-did things they already did (that would make me crazy if someone pulled that on me).
I also learned to let some things go. Despite re-working a few things, I learned that the help was way more valuable than having the "perfect" centerpieces. Once I let go of that assumption I was able to see the beauty in other peoples handy work and how much these people mean to me.
So...I am not only thankful to have gotten so much done, but I am incredibly thankful for the people who helped me with my productivity and taught me to ask for help when it's needed and to let go a little.
I will post a few pictures of our work soon. I bet you will love it :)
Much love.
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Their grass
If the grass looks greener on the other side maybe they are taking better care of it...
Note to self.
Note to self.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Rant!
First Impressions.
This is something that has come up a few times over the last few months and I felt compelled to discuss...with myself-in the car-while stuck in traffic (yea, I am that person).
Tom has gripped in the past about the judgements I have made about people after only meeting them for the first time. Almost always, they are positive. We have discussed and argued this "habit" of mine. This is usually what it looks like: I think he is too negatively judgemental (and he feels that he can always be proven wrong) and he thinks I set myself up for disappointment (which I don't know that I have ever been that disappointed).
I have met, dealt with and lived with A LOT of seriously negative people. People who don't see the good in others, who only focus on peoples faults, who judge others by the way they look/dress, who constantly have only negative things to say...about everything. YUCK. I find this SO ridiculously draining.
I had a conversation with a co-worker a while ago that has stuck with me. She and I were talking about something personal to which she replied something like this: we never truly know what other people are dealing with, and that it would be unfair of me to judge others based on my first impressions.
Simple. AND I think its true.
I have bad days. Sometimes I am dressed like a bum and don't wash my hair. Sometimes I say the wrong thing to people I have just met or get/feel awkward. Sometimes I can be withdrawn and reticent.
If all the people I know and love judged me on those days I would have no friends. Period.
And the fact is, most people have NO IDEA what goes on for others. None. My WORST day could be a pretty decent day for someone else. Who am I to judge "how good people have it" or say "I feel so bad for them"??? How do I know what's really going on? Who am I to say that a person is an ass/dbag/tool (insert negative assumption here) when I have no idea who or what this person is about the I meet them?
*Sometimes I get into these rants about how some people I know complain about their lives and I just.cant.fathom.why?!? But it's all relative. The things I have been through and dealt with are WAY different than what others have been through and dealt with. We all experience pain and hardship differently. But I am pretty sure we have all FELT pain and THAT is something I can empathize with.*
ANYWAY, back to my point. Yes. I like to positively judge most people when I first meet them. Why not? What do I have to lose? It's not like I am putting my faith in this new person, or promising my first born child. OF COURSE people that I have initially thought were cool turned out to be not so cool (and I am reminded of these miss-judgements by several people, which by the way is annoying) but really they have not been disappointments, its just a change of opinion.
Why is it so hard for people to see something good in others...even if you have only known them for a few moments? I know I would rather be "judged" positively upon first impression than have to change a persons mind...and frankly I probably wouldn't want to be friends with a person who initially judged me negatively.
I am human, so there are people who I don't view so positively, but usually for good reasons and after I get to know more about them.
Like Anne Frank said:"I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are truly good at heart"
Like I said I make negative assumptions about people from time to time...for example when I cuss out old ladies when they cut me off in traffic...but maybe their partner just had a massive heart attack and they are racing to get to the hospital to be by their side...
xo
This is something that has come up a few times over the last few months and I felt compelled to discuss...with myself-in the car-while stuck in traffic (yea, I am that person).
Tom has gripped in the past about the judgements I have made about people after only meeting them for the first time. Almost always, they are positive. We have discussed and argued this "habit" of mine. This is usually what it looks like: I think he is too negatively judgemental (and he feels that he can always be proven wrong) and he thinks I set myself up for disappointment (which I don't know that I have ever been that disappointed).
I have met, dealt with and lived with A LOT of seriously negative people. People who don't see the good in others, who only focus on peoples faults, who judge others by the way they look/dress, who constantly have only negative things to say...about everything. YUCK. I find this SO ridiculously draining.
I had a conversation with a co-worker a while ago that has stuck with me. She and I were talking about something personal to which she replied something like this: we never truly know what other people are dealing with, and that it would be unfair of me to judge others based on my first impressions.
Simple. AND I think its true.
I have bad days. Sometimes I am dressed like a bum and don't wash my hair. Sometimes I say the wrong thing to people I have just met or get/feel awkward. Sometimes I can be withdrawn and reticent.
If all the people I know and love judged me on those days I would have no friends. Period.
And the fact is, most people have NO IDEA what goes on for others. None. My WORST day could be a pretty decent day for someone else. Who am I to judge "how good people have it" or say "I feel so bad for them"??? How do I know what's really going on? Who am I to say that a person is an ass/dbag/tool (insert negative assumption here) when I have no idea who or what this person is about the I meet them?
*Sometimes I get into these rants about how some people I know complain about their lives and I just.cant.fathom.why?!? But it's all relative. The things I have been through and dealt with are WAY different than what others have been through and dealt with. We all experience pain and hardship differently. But I am pretty sure we have all FELT pain and THAT is something I can empathize with.*
ANYWAY, back to my point. Yes. I like to positively judge most people when I first meet them. Why not? What do I have to lose? It's not like I am putting my faith in this new person, or promising my first born child. OF COURSE people that I have initially thought were cool turned out to be not so cool (and I am reminded of these miss-judgements by several people, which by the way is annoying) but really they have not been disappointments, its just a change of opinion.
What I have found disappointing is when I have invested my time in a relationship and have put my beliefs and faith into that said relationship and it is not given the same respect in return. That has ALWAYS been more disappointing than any of the "wrong" first assumptions I have made about others.
Why is it so hard for people to see something good in others...even if you have only known them for a few moments? I know I would rather be "judged" positively upon first impression than have to change a persons mind...and frankly I probably wouldn't want to be friends with a person who initially judged me negatively.
I am human, so there are people who I don't view so positively, but usually for good reasons and after I get to know more about them.
Like Anne Frank said:"I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are truly good at heart"
Like I said I make negative assumptions about people from time to time...for example when I cuss out old ladies when they cut me off in traffic...but maybe their partner just had a massive heart attack and they are racing to get to the hospital to be by their side...
xo
Monday, March 14, 2011
I CAN DO THAT!
POMANDER madness!
I found these amazing DIY pomander tutorials online (I will find it, and share soon) and was determined to make my own. It's made out of coffee filters and crayola watercolor. I die cut the flowers and pinned them to the styrofoam ball. The color came out odd, but its purple and red. It currently hangs over Tom's dresser, Ha!
xo
The Room
*Note the signage...it reminds me why I spend my time in that room!
This is my workspace...we won't be here long, but its pretty fucking sweet ;)
It's a disaster area, but it works for me. I tend to work well in organized chaos.
More to come!
Friday, March 11, 2011
NEW!
I want to turn a new leaf. Whatever that means.
I have been away from the bloggosphere for a while now, and over the last month have been thinking about if I should go back/what to write about/why am I doing it.
Initially, I started this blog because I needed support. I wanted to lose weight. While that’s almost always true I want this to be about more. I want it to be an avenue for something bigger, better and more of what I am forever searching for.
Yet, I often struggle with what that means. What am I searching for??? I’m content, but often feel like I need to do something more. What the hell does that mean?
After putting a ton of thought into this (and being harassed a by a few people) I decided I do, in fact, want to come back to the blogger. I like to write, especially about myself. What? I’m a tad egocentric, sue me. What I want to write about is my “journey” what I am doing with myself and who I want to be.
Don’t get me wrong, I think I’m pretty awesome, but there are certain things that I envy in others and want for myself. So, rather than feeling that ugly word I want to do something about it. I want to get as close as possible to the Ultimate Me I have pictured in my head.
So this is what I have decided I want to do. For now anyway.
Learn to upcycle stuff.
This is a concept that I LOVE. I have so many ideas my head may explode. Now I need to inherit *cough* some power tools and I know someone who has a house full of stuff dying to be upcycled. Little sister, I forsee some bondage time in NY happening real soon!
Go back to doing Yoga.
I recently experienced a VERY scary panic attack. Knowing that there is nothing you can do to stop it once it starts is (for me) the worst part – control issues much? So I want to relax more, be a little more flexible, centered and grounded. There is a Yoga studio up the road from me that is 50 bucks for the first month for unlimited classes. I, no doubt, will not be able to afford the classes afterwards, but for one month I am going to take full advantage.
Lose these damn pounds.
Enough said. I know that I am one of those people that is almost never satisfied with my weight, but I will try my hardest to accept what I can be.
Save some moooola.
This is a much easier thing to say than to do. But friends, we may need to find some real cheap (free?) things to do if we want to hang out. I read this little quip/article about how Lady Gaga saved this couple $$$. They had a Gaga jar; everytime they heard Lady Gaga on the radio they donated one dollar to the jar. Over a year they saved over 6 thousand! Brilliant!!! I probably won’t do that, but I do need to sort out all my debt. Paying more in student loans than rent puts a serious dent in my funds, despite working three jobs. Any tips about saving money are greatly appreciated.
Finally, change the name of the blog.
I am changing the blog name because my blog (idea) has changed. I am taking my current life and upgrading it :)
More to come!
Kate
I have been away from the bloggosphere for a while now, and over the last month have been thinking about if I should go back/what to write about/why am I doing it.
Initially, I started this blog because I needed support. I wanted to lose weight. While that’s almost always true I want this to be about more. I want it to be an avenue for something bigger, better and more of what I am forever searching for.
Yet, I often struggle with what that means. What am I searching for??? I’m content, but often feel like I need to do something more. What the hell does that mean?
After putting a ton of thought into this (and being harassed a by a few people) I decided I do, in fact, want to come back to the blogger. I like to write, especially about myself. What? I’m a tad egocentric, sue me. What I want to write about is my “journey” what I am doing with myself and who I want to be.
Don’t get me wrong, I think I’m pretty awesome, but there are certain things that I envy in others and want for myself. So, rather than feeling that ugly word I want to do something about it. I want to get as close as possible to the Ultimate Me I have pictured in my head.
So this is what I have decided I want to do. For now anyway.
Learn to upcycle stuff.
This is a concept that I LOVE. I have so many ideas my head may explode. Now I need to inherit *cough* some power tools and I know someone who has a house full of stuff dying to be upcycled. Little sister, I forsee some bondage time in NY happening real soon!
Go back to doing Yoga.
I recently experienced a VERY scary panic attack. Knowing that there is nothing you can do to stop it once it starts is (for me) the worst part – control issues much? So I want to relax more, be a little more flexible, centered and grounded. There is a Yoga studio up the road from me that is 50 bucks for the first month for unlimited classes. I, no doubt, will not be able to afford the classes afterwards, but for one month I am going to take full advantage.
Lose these damn pounds.
Enough said. I know that I am one of those people that is almost never satisfied with my weight, but I will try my hardest to accept what I can be.
Save some moooola.
This is a much easier thing to say than to do. But friends, we may need to find some real cheap (free?) things to do if we want to hang out. I read this little quip/article about how Lady Gaga saved this couple $$$. They had a Gaga jar; everytime they heard Lady Gaga on the radio they donated one dollar to the jar. Over a year they saved over 6 thousand! Brilliant!!! I probably won’t do that, but I do need to sort out all my debt. Paying more in student loans than rent puts a serious dent in my funds, despite working three jobs. Any tips about saving money are greatly appreciated.
Finally, change the name of the blog.
I am changing the blog name because my blog (idea) has changed. I am taking my current life and upgrading it :)
More to come!
Kate
Sunday, February 27, 2011
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